I have been told that I give the best hugs ever. Some of the descriptions I have heard:
“Oh my, it’s like being hugged by a pillow.”
“Your hugs are like going for a massage.”
“When you hug me, I feel better about myself.”
“I feel safe.”
“WOW!”
I’m not sure when this started for me. I think it has to do with how I believe I should be. One of the challenges in my life is to try and make sure that everyone feels a little better about themselves after spending time with me. At the end, the hug is a natural way to say as much as you can through physical contact. When I hug you I am saying to you: “Thank you.” “I appreciate you.” “You are safe with me.” “Everything will be ok.” “You are loved.”
In recent years, I have begun to pay close attention to how people hug. Whether it is a firm hold with a full body press or a timid hug with an arch to keep the body away, everyone is different. Some wrap their arms around my neck, standing on their tip toes just to reach. Others wrap their arms around my girth and are fully engulfed in a strong embrace. One of my favourites is the angled one arm hug. It is the most uncomfortable hug to give. One arm can reach right around with ease and the other doesn’t quite make it; an awkward off-centre hug.
You can tell a lot about a person from their hugs. The eyes may be the window to the soul, but a hug shows you just how comfortable a person is with themselves. Some people gear up for a hug. They put everything down, take off their coat and stretch their arms out. They know what they want without any guilt or fear. For those hugs, I have to be ready to give my best because they know what they want so I’m going to give it.
Others are timid and reluctant to hug at all. This is more common than you might think. I believe it has to do with trust. Some people trust immediately and others a little longer. It is a wonderful thing to build trust with someone over time. You can feel the progression through their hug. It starts off timid with as much separation of the body as possible. In the end, some of the best hugs that I have participated in are from those who finally say back, “Thank you for being you.”
“Oh my, it’s like being hugged by a pillow.”
“Your hugs are like going for a massage.”
“When you hug me, I feel better about myself.”
“I feel safe.”
“WOW!”
I’m not sure when this started for me. I think it has to do with how I believe I should be. One of the challenges in my life is to try and make sure that everyone feels a little better about themselves after spending time with me. At the end, the hug is a natural way to say as much as you can through physical contact. When I hug you I am saying to you: “Thank you.” “I appreciate you.” “You are safe with me.” “Everything will be ok.” “You are loved.”
In recent years, I have begun to pay close attention to how people hug. Whether it is a firm hold with a full body press or a timid hug with an arch to keep the body away, everyone is different. Some wrap their arms around my neck, standing on their tip toes just to reach. Others wrap their arms around my girth and are fully engulfed in a strong embrace. One of my favourites is the angled one arm hug. It is the most uncomfortable hug to give. One arm can reach right around with ease and the other doesn’t quite make it; an awkward off-centre hug.
You can tell a lot about a person from their hugs. The eyes may be the window to the soul, but a hug shows you just how comfortable a person is with themselves. Some people gear up for a hug. They put everything down, take off their coat and stretch their arms out. They know what they want without any guilt or fear. For those hugs, I have to be ready to give my best because they know what they want so I’m going to give it.
Others are timid and reluctant to hug at all. This is more common than you might think. I believe it has to do with trust. Some people trust immediately and others a little longer. It is a wonderful thing to build trust with someone over time. You can feel the progression through their hug. It starts off timid with as much separation of the body as possible. In the end, some of the best hugs that I have participated in are from those who finally say back, “Thank you for being you.”
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